Thursday, April 24, 2014

Every cloud has a silver lining .... :)

Indeed -Every cloud has a silver lining! It means that you should never feel hopeless because difficult times always lead to better days.

In relation to the silver lining aspect, there is a strong theory to back it up. My very dear friend introduced to me a theory known as ‘chaos theory’.  Intrigued by the theory, I did some research on it and found it very interesting.  Every event that happens in our life has a ‘certainty’ associated to it; there seems to nothing too random. However, the randomness when seen in the butterfly effect seems to make perfect sense! At the end, all events are beautifully aligned and processed; just like the beautification from a caterpillar to butterfly.

Over the last few days, two of my friends and I have been working on a project with rigorous enthusiasm, as we saw a prospective ‘feather in our cap’. With much-do we  decided to have a rendezvous with the client.  The meeting started off on a high note, very pleased with the hospitality. Gradually the tone of the conversation took a U-turn and things seemed out of place half way through the meeting.  The more we put our point forward, the worst it got; the situation was way out of control and each perception started becoming a catalyst of ruining in its own way.

Helpless and hopeless of the situation, we politely wrapped up the conversation, calling it a day. With mixed emotions, as we took the elevator down, there was sheer silence till we excited the building and reached a restaurant for dinner. Huffing-n-puffing over Mexican food, all upset with turn of events, we started to vent our feelings.

Through the conversation, we realized our power to work as a group.
And woala….! We got the silver lining for our cloud.  We are hopeful that we progress towards bigger and better things as a group.

Moral of this write-up: Never loose hope in any situation- you never know, it could open new doors for you J. Look for the silver lining in every cloud that comes your way.


Monday, April 14, 2014

Happiness- the kickass therapy!

Life comes in its own way changing course of events (both planned and unplanned) and puts us in maze! Stumbling into a situation causing stress is nothing new to us… we have all been there and done that. With every year that goes by, we mature, become stronger, and have better strategies to un-maze the maze.

The best therapy of all times is happiness.  Oxford dictionary’s definition for happiness is “ the state of being happy.” In my opinion happiness is any activity to make you smile, and bring a smile to the person next to you. It is like a warm hug from a loved one; you feel secure and content while unwrapping your arms.

I passionately believe that happiness is a gift to share with everyone. Shimmer the smile everywhere you go. 

Here’s a list of all the crazy happy things I do. Go ahead and sprinkle happiness within and around you:
  • Hearing ‘hello’ from grandpa. Teaching him Skype
  • Talking to family
  • HUG your friend/coworker
  • Sharing food… sharing is caring J (you can resolve so many issues over food and conversation)
  •  Sitting by the lake with your best friend/friends
  • Breaking into a dance step while crossing a busy street (I’ve done this on a NY street; totally worth it!)
  • Seeing a toddler trying to walk
  • Holding a baby…
  •  Baby sitting your lill’ cousin/ friends baby and entertaining them NON-stop
  • Calling a long lost friend and saying you missed them
  • Having friends to watch a movie
  •  Saying ‘I Love YOU’ to someone special
  • Sending cakes and flowers to your friend in a different country
  • Leaving small notes to your loved one
There are so many creative ways to find happiness… its like creating a perfume; different styles, different flavors!

Have you made anyone happy today? J




Thursday, April 10, 2014

Break- up is not an option

The change in times is leading towards diversity. Diversity comes with a its own package of virtues and vices. Playing the devils advocate here, lets look at some of the issues with diversity in relationships.

Love is the amazing bond to share with the special someone. It makes you feel wonderful and ‘makes the world around you marvelous’. In my opinion, love is worth the experience and it’s a bliss when it transforms to a stronger relationship, also known as marriage.

This is all the nice side of falling in love. What happens when things turn a little rough between the couple? Most of the couples call it quits without even trying to sort our things. If anything in this case, today’s digital world of communication makes it worse. Texting or leaving voice messages has become the trend to communicate (rudely) during hard times.

Once this stage is passed, people make the worst mistake by calling it quits. ‘Break-up’ seems to be the best solution for everyone in trouble? I fail to understand this concept. Wouldn’t it be easier to sit and talk through the issue instead of being a stupid?  My personal opinion is to take help, may be from a trust worthy friend or professional help!!

While many may question: why should we try to compromise, sit and talk, have patience and try to resolve? When things are not working out isn’t it a peaceful solution to part and stay apart? As the saying believed by many goes, a thread once broken has to be tied with joints and things will never be the same. After the initial phase of joy and wonder, one realizes it being an infatuation and not love: It being a blunder. Lets imagine for the imagination sake: How strong would the relation get if it is talked through? The situation might give a different perspective as we are in a more ‘saner’ mode.  Things will seem practical. We will better appreciate the person sitting across from us, and it then becomes a two way street for respect and love. So what is the glitch is not talking through?

If you don’t try to make it work with the person you so call ‘love’ at the given point in time, there is no guarantee that you will ever find a partner for a life.  Unfortunately, with all the love dramas we witness around us, it is not very rare to see individuals walking around with a trail of broken hearts and souls behind them.


Break-up is NOT the solution peeps! COMMUNICATION will definitely resolve the issues, of any kind.